Maybe it will help those who write me to sort out some issues.
Remember, that being a widow/widower is much different than being divorced and comes with a host of different problems.
Try not to dwell on it: if they’re dating after becoming widowed, then it’s because they’re ready.
Focus your energy on being pleased that they’ve chosen you, and devote yourself to the happier aspects of your relationship, such as meeting any kids they have, or helping them discover love and laughter again.
I would never take down a picture of me, Jeff and the kids.